Resilience. Resilience is a funny thing. We all want it, but don’t want to go through the events that build it. Am I right? Because let’s be honest resilience when it is being built feels a lot more like a low blow to the gut than curling those dumbbells while you admire your biceps in the mirror.
Exactly one month and one day ago I was driving to the Sydney airport for the last time with my friend Sam. I was saying goodbye to my home in Australia and flying back to new beginnings in the US. We were chatting in the car and she asked me how I was feeling. Up until this point I couldn’t wait to board that plane and throw up the peace sign to ‘Straya. But at this moment I found myself a bit emotional. I told her, “the last few months have been unexpected , emotionally challenging, financially stretching, and socially isolating. And it’s time to go home.”
It was over. This difficult season and my season in Australia. It would all come to a close as I handed my Passport to the airport worker and boarded the plane in just 2 and a half hours.
It was after that, that Sam asked me another question: “Amber, what do you think these last 6 months were for?” I looked out the window, shrugged my shoulders and told her I had no idea why God kept me here 6 months longer than I had planned on. “Resilience. I think you will look back on this season and see the resilience God has built in you. That grit,” Sam said.
If Sam is right, and I think she may be, then building resilience felt a lot like falling off the monkey bars and getting the wind knocked out of me. It is that character trait we admire in others but never select at the “character buffet line” because we know it means going through some crap to actually build it.
We admire it in the woman who recently lost her husband to cancer. We admire it in the friend who just had to have brain surgery and relearn how to walk. We praise it in the man who despite his dyslexia just earned his Bachelor’s Degree. It is the trait we like to admire and not build. But sometimes, we don’t have a choice. God sees our future and what lies ahead. He uses everything to our good – even the things that are not good and are not from Him to build us as His prized vessels. It’s how God uses the lemons for lemonade. The good in the awful. The rainbow after the storm. The scar after the surgery.
If you are in a season of struggle, sacrifice, or surrender know that God has got you and He is building the resilience you will be thankful for and others will admire.
Often, the hard things in our lives produce the good things within us. Reilience.